The pejoratives “Cuck“ and “Cuckservative“ are currently fashionable terms for insufficiently conservative politicians. In an attempt to reclaim the term and ultimately reshape society, all the usual suspects in the Leftist media have begun to flirt with normalizing the polyandry, hypergamy, and misandry implied in the term.
The term sounds dirty and feels deliciously naughty to utter aloud, which explains a large portion of its popularity, especially with younger, less socially constrained conservatives. Since society had deified LGBTQ-etc. and placed them beyond the pale as insult metaphors, the worst barb one straight, white male has against another is the accusation of harboring an unfaithful spouse. However, the term implies far more. Namely, subservience, inadequacy, and outright racism.
The Alt-Right, another term with ill-defined borders in desperate need of a Trumpenreich wall, is credited with creating and popularizing the term ahead of the last election cycle, replacing the more genteel and respectable sounding acronym RINO, Republican In Name Only.
The Cuckoo bird is no better than the average single mother on welfare.
The Cuckoo bird has evolved a survival tactic of laying its eggs in the nest of other birds and leaving her chicks to be cared for by the none-the-wiser parents, when presented with the opportunity. Since the animal world lacks a social safety net and actively discourages irresponsible behavior with death, this little trick allows the mother Cuckoo bird to return to her party girl ways without the hindrance of having to care for her own chicks. Presumably, the male Cuckoo doesn’t mind this state of affairs, as he does not protest.
The Cuckoo is the deadbeat dad and welfare queen of the bird world; spitting out offspring for everyone else to care for.
Whether the foster birds are truly hoodwinked by the Cuckoo’s ruse or are willfully blind to the trickery isn’t clear, but I suspect the former. Even the smartest animals, of which birds generally are not, lack the higher levels emotions of pity and empathy, which would lead to a resigned adoption.
On my farm, we have been known to redistribute eggs between chickens or ducks to even out the stresses of baby raising. It says a lot about the power of both imprinting and the motherly instincts of birds that this trick works within species and across it.
Chickens aren’t known for being smart, but they deserve credit on this one count.
When you think about it, the English language is chocked full of idioms with animal origins. It makes sense. I can think of half a dozen phrases, which can be traced directly back to chicken behavior, that anyone who has kept them will instantly understand. How a term drawing on the sneaky behavior of a wild bird entered the collective conscious can be attributed to Geoffrey Chaucer’s “The Miller’s Tale” and William Shakespeare’s use of it in his poetry. Cuckold actually appears as early as about 1250, in the poem “The Owl and the Nightingale.”
By that time, the metaphor had changed to mean the unsuspecting husband of an unfaithful spouse, possibly providing for the maintenance of children not his own. That is how the phrase was popularized and comes to us today.
Even before the internet, Rule Thirty-Four was in force.
Sigmund Freud was analyzing cuckoldry as a sexual fetish in the late 19th Century, but I suspect it had existed as a bedroom game between husbands and wives for some time. Otherwise, Freud would not have studied it. However, after Freud, there was a definite divide of the word’s usage. Specifically, one referring to the cuckold as unknowing, betrayed husband, and the other with him as willing participant of a kinky fantasy.
At the risk of being pedantic, a cuckold who knows what his wife is up to, which seems to be the essence of the fetish, is correctly called a wittol. The term probably never caught on because it lacks the hard “C” sound, the humiliation aspect, and power imbalance between partners.
Now that you know that, go impress some friends at a cocktail party.
Y’all be careful, if you decide to research this subject yourself. It ain’t for the weak of heart.
Careful wording of search phrases was required to produce this article, so as to avoid the dark corners of the internet and being pulled into ultimately unproductive activities. I’m as much of a degenerate as the next man, but I do like to accomplish some actual writing, now and again.
You can look into the exact details of how cuckolding works, if you’re so inclined. I won’t think less of you. As a matter of fact, I’m rather indifferent to the details of other people’s sex lives. What others do in their free time is their business, but cuckolds are now being used as a cudgel against those who desire to uphold the pillars of society.
The newfound push for cuckoldry has burst into the mainstream media over the past year or so, with breathless articles in The Huffington Post, the UK’s Independent, the Daily Mail, and CNN extolling the benefits of the latest Leftist relationship curative.
We’re men. We’re manly men. We’re men in tights.
Much like the current craze in homesteading to hold up Apple Cider Vinegar as a modern miracle tonic, watching your wife have sex with another man seems counter-intuitive to its claimed curative powers. Cuckoldry snake oil is made primarily of emasculation.
Third wave feminism is largely to blame for the present cuckoldry fad. In the past, a small community of people participated in the activity and kept quiet about their particular kink. Only their relatively small circle of friends might know, due to the social stigma associated with it, even among those in the relaxed realm of recreational social sex…Or, so I’ve heard from extensive interviews with that sort.
Generalized hatred of men within the feminist elite and media compel Leftists to denigrate men at every opportunity. These shrews detest masculinity. A look at most television shows and the commercials that pay for them illustrate this point. No longer are husbands and fathers portrayed at strong leaders, honorable heads of household, or even merely competent at much of anything.
Instead, they are imbeciles, self-doubting, gutless, cowardly, and loutish. This isn’t by accident. Count up the number of current-run male television characters who are heterosexual and possess more than a handful of admirable qualities. You will find damn few because it’s the goal of the Leftists in Hollywood to bring down the patriarchy. How many better ways are there to take big chunks out of its foundation than convince husbands the way to strengthen a marital relationship is to allow another man have sex with his wife?
In their typical inability to process the world any way that does not center around them and their needs, feminists believe in a safe world with dangerous men. They have it wrong. The dangerous world was made safe by dangerous men, who choose to show their women kindness.
Feminists simply sneer and shout, “Patriarchy!”
You’re God damned right the patriarchy exists. It created the safe, bountiful world we inhabit, where those who benefit from the toil and sacrifice of its progenitors can bitch incessantly about how their forefathers failed to create a utopia.
Women have a tendency to marry across and up the social dominance hierarchy, while men have a tendency to marry across and down it. What this means on the modern, practical level (just as an example) is you will often see a doctor marry another doctor and a male doctor marry his nurse or receptionist. What is less common is a female doctor doing the same.
Biologically speaking, there is a reason for that. Not only are women physically weaker than men, but they are vulnerable while caring for children, especially from pregnancy through breastfeeding. Imagine the world humans inhabited until relatively recently. Dangers abounded, mostly from other humans, but the environment was hostile, as well. Physically fit, mentally sharp men dropped like flies.
Now, imagine facing that world half the size of a man, carrying floppy milk canteens on your chest that throw off your balance, with hips so out of useful proportion that you can barely run from danger, and carrying a squirming fifteen-pound bundle that makes a lot of noise.
Being so resource intense for so many years, it makes sense women gravitate toward men with sufficient excess resources to care for her and her offspring. Since one of the defining characteristics of a cuckold is denial of additional partners to the man, the fetish reinforces the idea that a woman can “have it all,” as the feminist have been cackling for years.
You can’t have it all, ladies. Nobody can. Life is a long series of trade-offs, but not according to feminists.
All this picking and choosing of different men based upon their ability to fill specific needs of the woman leads to effective polyandry.
A lifestyle wherein a woman keeps one husband for financial support, one for sex, one for an exercise partner, and one to go shopping and gossip with is not too far off in the future, unless we as a society put our collective foot down and tell these misandrist feminists that the solution to the imaginary problem of women being oppressed is not to oppress men.
Until recently, gay men filled the last two spots on that list. Now, that they are all running off to be gay-married, needy woman have to find a way to lock in their various types of support. Women relate to gay men the same way they do other women. Go figure. Straight men expect sex in exchange for listening to how her day went, which can easily be an hour long monologue. We generally consider it a fair deal.
Convincing otherwise reluctant young men that cuckolding strengthens relationships and empowers women degrades the implied sexual exclusivity expected, and renders men interchangeable parts in a woman’s life.
Men who keep a mistress, whether known to the wife or not, are roundly criticized by our society. Now, the likes of HuffPo and CNN have declared the matriarchically-headed version of such typically scorned behavior the future structure of solid relationships, and by implication, the new bedrock of civilization.
Subservience, Inadequacy, and Racism
Make no mistake. Cuckolding is a form of sexual fetish that falls firmly in the category of BDSM (Bondage, Domination, Sadism, Masochism). If that’s the way you roll and it works for you, carry on. It is an activity that works for a narrow band of the population, but that doesn’t mean it’s a good fit for the entirety of society.
What people do is their business. Until, that is, they make it public. At that point, we are all allowed to have an opinion. Not only is the media normalizing cuckolding by taking it public, they look to be recruiting among the vulnerable for an activity that is ultimately destructive when practiced on a large scale.
I blame the lack of fathers in the home for existence of conditions where this cuckold silliness has taken root. It’s not surprising. In the absence of fathers to stabilize and finance the household, the tendency is for women to marry the state.
However, since government sucks at literally everything, why should we expect it to be an adequate father? Government as father is a tyrant, and a distant, often indifferent, one at that. Inadequate in his absence and demanding submission for the once-monthly distribution of resources, it’s no wonder multiple generations of single mothers have managed to raise boys who lack the faintest notion of masculinity.
The girls are left in no better position. In addition to not know what a stable household looks like or how fathers bring it about, they have no yardstick against which to measure their future romantic interests. For better or worse, every potential husband is measured against the girl’s father. If there wasn’t one, she has no standard to compare the boy or set expectations of how she is to be treated.
Uncle Sam makes a decent provider, but a lousy lover.
Multiple generations of children raised to adulthood with only a passing acquaintance with day-to-day masculinity in the home makes them susceptible to all sorts of destructive beliefs; men are not necessary, women can fill the role of both mother and father simultaneously, promiscuity is empowering, the commitment of marriage is unnecessary, the nuclear family is not necessary to build and maintain a society.
Every one of those beliefs is hog-wash, but the media and radical Left, both of whose stock and trade is dependence culture, work tirelessly to degenerate society with those myths to make as many people as possible reliant on them.
And they are succeeding.
Millennials are ripe to internalize the feelings of guilt harbored for living in the greatest society known to mankind. These college-age kids know they have never been tested, and would likely fail miserably, if they were. They have more freedom, stuff, and education than they know how to put to use. Hardly any of them possess, much less have mastered, a set of skills that would command more than the magical fifteen dollars an hour on which they fixate.
They know deep down, in spite of all the self-esteem and empowerment lessons crammed down their throats in their permissive, do whatever makes you feel good right now government schools, that they are as inadequate in every way imaginable as the absentee fathers who did not raise them.
The feelings of inadequacy lead to overcompensation. Gigantic beards on hipsters are to make up for their lack of manly, calloused hands because if you don’t have the hands of a lumberjack, you can look like one, anyway. Letting your girlfriend or wife screw other men because you were too busy instantly gratifying yourself to internet pornography and lack the drive to fight for what is yours is the direct result of your high-soy, low testosterone lifestyle.
Weren’t these boys ever clued in that most problems with their woman can be prevented by banging the bottom out of her vagina?
Much like the revolving turnstile of single mother boyfriends and the hookup culture, in a “soft bigotry of low expectations” sort of way, the men who supplant the husband are more or less interchangeable. Not that any of the bulls are complaining, except when they are replaced themselves.
What is most insidious about media promulgating normalization of this fringe fetish is the undercurrent of racism. Frequently, often primarily, and sometimes exclusively, black men are the objects of the cuckolding woman’s interests. Again, not that any of those men are complaining about the situation, either.
My unscientific research leads me to believe that cuckolding is close to nonexistent among black couples. It seems to be a primarily white phenomena among the participating couples and almost exclusively white among the husbands. That only makes sense through the racist view that, on average, it takes a black man to sexually satisfy a woman when her husband cannot.
Men are men, and it’s not surprising that some will participate in an activity, regardless of how destructive it is, as long as they get laid. Having said that, I wonder how many black men consider, or even care, how they are perpetuating stereotypes. As a group, they recoil at blackface, protest when a coworker brings watermelon to a potluck, and riot when one of their own dies at the hands of a police officer.
However, have a middle-aged white woman with “Queen of Spades” tattooed around her ankle tell a black man she wants him to show her cuckold husband how only a real black man with his enormous Mandingo member can satisfy her, and all of a sudden, guess who is perfectly willing to let a few stereotypes slide?
The blacks, in general, don’t seem overly interested in bondage and discipline, as a fetish. I blame Alex Haley.
Masculinity, men, and the women who appreciate masculine men have been under attack for half a century by the vagina cult. These gynozealots have plowed through Western culture like ISIS, brutally killing resisters, enslaving the survivors, and annihilating all traces of the conquered culture to build its replacement as a feminist utopia staffed by male Helots.
Mainstream media and the progressive left are only too willing to assist the Amazonian invaders push their political agenda by celebrating cuckolds because it destabilizes the society they all three wish to destroy. Whether they realize it or not, mainstreaming a once fringe activity is removing yet another block from the foundation of civilization that took millennia to build.
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